Doing so can lead you down a bad path

An excerpt from the book “why we sleep” mentions that when we get sleep deprived, there is a sleep rebound where we sleep more than we normally do to make up for the lost sleep. However, he adds that we are unable to completely recover all the sleep we had lost.

Something to keep in mind

Reading “why we sleep” by Matthew Walker and he talks about non-REM and REM sleep. he postulates that non-REM sleep removes the superfluous/unnecessary and the REM sleep giving details. He uses clay model as a metaphor. Removing excessive and creating the rough shape is non-REM while adding details and connections is REM sleep. Perhaps meditation acts as that remover of non-REM, separating yourself from your thoughts/emotions so that you can be more objective, cutting some of that superfluous. Not to say emotions are superfluous, but you also don’t want to overshoot and have it excessive. That can lead to unhealthy associations/conclusions.

As an aside, I don’t think emotions are inherently bad. However, emotions can result in stimulation and as being who at times seek stimulation, there is the possibility of excess.

I feel like there’s this narrative on how important emotions are and how you should feel, which I believe odd true to an extent. But I feel that generally speaking, people have problems of feeling too much. I think society has a tendency to exploit our emotions and continually tapping emotions makes us more prone to unrealistic emotion expectations/responses. Just my two cents. May very well be wrong

Healthy relationships are boring to emotionally unhealthy or immature people.

When one is younger, one desires that drama and can mistaken that for passion. As we get older though, I feel there is a shift to stability.

Just something to think about

We, as humans, crave stimulation and challenge. However, we also crave comfort and familiarity. Quite the conundrum, no?

I think the balance lies in where we place our comfort and where we place our challenges. Perhaps in areas of great importance, we should strive for stability…such as our relationships, source of income (stable vs unstable), health/fitness (developing a routine)

Then we can place our challenges on things of less importance such as our hobbies or social activities. That way we get a balance of the two. It does not have to be all or nothing. We can have different areas of our lives devoted to different endeavors.

For me, I enjoy cooking and I get satisfaction challenging myself in trying new dishes. Stakes are relatively low. If I mess up a dish, it is one off or I can eat something.

Part of the disconnect could be from seeing people acting in their field. Landing a plane would appear very challenging, however a pilot has done it so often he could do it with minimal brain power. We don’t see the practice behind it all so that when the pilot lands the plane it is in the area of comfort/familiarity.

Just food for thought

If possible, try to put whatever item you’re interested in buying for 48 hours. Sometimes, you’ll notice you don’t want the item after the hype and novelty died down

Accept the events that you dislike and be grateful for the events that you do like

It’s simple: a popcorn seasoning called flavacol salt and butter flavored coconut oil.

It’s a secret that big theater doesn’t want you to know! (Joking)

These are the two industry standards to create that unique movie popcorn taste. It’s why people have such a hard time recreating it at home.

If you see movie popcorn recipes that don’t involve flavacol, then it’s a lie.

Now you know.

When applying sun screen and bug spray, it is best to first apply sun screen on your screen and then bug spray. That way, the bug screen is on the outside to ward against bugs and the sunscreen is underneath to protect the skin

If you’re talking to someone who’s in the position of helping you and they make a mistake or even rub you the wrong way, remember that they are just trying to help. Forgive them.

So if they irritate or frustrate or annoy you, take a deep breath, relax, and let it go. Remember, they are only trying to help. Consider if there is something else that is bothering you that is causing you to feel tense. Relax your body and reset your mind. Then continue to talk to the person calmly and collected.

Easier said than done. This happened to me recently, and while I was frustrated, I did my best to not be rude. I’d say I could have done a bit better. One thing I could have done is say “it’s okay” when they made a mistake. Be patient with people around you. Sometimes they get nervous for whatever reason. Be kind to them and they will be kind to you in turn