Random thoughts for you

Was reading a book and there was a line that I thought was interesting:

“Desperate people often do not look beyond their desperation”

It makes sense. So more a cautionary tale. If you are feeling desperate for something, be mindful about the long term consequences. Always try to be clear headed

It’s easy to get angry at mean people. Someone upsets you and you react. It is perfectly normal.

However, there’s a higher level of action: being compassionate. I’m not saying you necessarily have to be sweet in return, but before you react, think upon this: people who are in pain or miserable want to being others down with them.

So when people is acting in a way that is hosting, just remember that they’re upset and you to bring you down with them.

They are acting out of pain and suffering. Try to be neutral and try to understand them. Try to see past what they’re saying.

One, this will help deescalate things and maybe help them calm down

Two, you are not allowing them to upset you and that idea is empowering. You are choosing how you respond instead of them choosing for you

You can’t always be friends, but you can always be friendly

When starting out, you will understand the importance of money. Everyone does. We need it to pay for the food we eat and for the roof we live under. And it’s true; money is important…to an extent. Once you’ve accumulated some money, hopefully you’ll realize there are things that are worth more than money. Some people don’t get beyond that. But two things come to mind: time and family. Family is easy to understand. I would rather spend more money if it means better/more time with people I care about. The other thing, time, may be a bit harder to appreciate. We have only so many hours on this earth. And you can use money to free up your time. That is a next level hack, but you have to have some money accumulated in order to do that. Something to think about is “how much is my time worth?” And that can change over time. I didn’t value time as much in my younger years however now I care more and more. For instance, it’s be easier for me to buy fried chicken than to make it. It’s be cheaper to make fried chicken, but it’s messy and tedious. I’d much rather buy it than make it. This doesn’t apply for everything though. It is based on how much you value your time vs your money. However, typically as you get older, you have more money and less time, so there is this shift where you may value your time more and more. Just food for thought

If you tell someone that something bothers you and the other person replies “well, I wouldn’t mind if it happened to me” or “if I was in that situation, I’d let you do XYZ” or something along those lines. Your reply should be “well, we are different people with different boundaries.”

I always thought it was a bit pretentious to dress up, but read somewhere and it made a good counter point: dressing up isn’t about showing off. It’s about signaling you care about others and you are willing to put in the effort

Saw that line in a video and really resonated. I think it’s something we could all remember

Any time you fall short, you have the opportunity to learn from it so that you may go farther in the next

I view cravings as short term pleasures which is not necessarily the same as desire. Desire can be good as it drives you towards a goal, but cravings seem to distract from that.

All craves are a type of desire, but not all desires are cravings.

Consider cravings as short term drivers while desires can be long term drivers.

For instance, desire to be healthy is a long term goal while craving for fried wings are short term.

Don’t let short term cravings distract/deter you from long term desires.

The more you can control/let go of cravings, the more you can focus on meaningful things.

It’s nice to enjoy food and it’s okay to enjoy it, but it must be balanced with an overall focus towards long term desires.

Consider a middle path between hedonism (all cravings) vs monastic (no pleasure)

Easier said than done. However, the more you can control your wants, the happier you will be.

Happiness = things you have/things you want

Also, the better you can understand your desires and the results/consequences of those desires, the better you can navigate your life and move towards a better life

It’s okay to feel frustrated, angry, or upset. And it’s okay to honor/acknowledge how you’re feeling.

But it’s wrong to act mean because of those emotions. Being angry doesn’t justify lashing out.

This is a tough thing to implement, especially in the moment, but thought it would at least be worth noting

Random thought: what if you consider health and wellness a hobby?

Sounds a bit odd, but I feel there can be an unhealthy focus on weight. Despite that, people struggle with their health

Perhaps it’s our perspective? It’s almost like a live or die/war zone in regards to health. We think I have to lose x amount of weight or I have to do this/that.

What if we viewed it like a hobby that we enjoy? Then it’s like “ooo! I can eat this instead of that!” Maybe it’s the type of energy we put into it. If we view it kind of like work, it may drag kind of like work and that’s not what we want for ourselves.

Instead, maybe view it as a cool thing you can build on

Considering viewing through the lens of curious objectivity