Random thoughts for you

I always thought it was a bit pretentious to dress up, but read somewhere and it made a good counter point: dressing up isn’t about showing off. It’s about signaling you care about others and you are willing to put in the effort

Saw that line in a video and really resonated. I think it’s something we could all remember

Any time you fall short, you have the opportunity to learn from it so that you may go farther in the next

I view cravings as short term pleasures which is not necessarily the same as desire. Desire can be good as it drives you towards a goal, but cravings seem to distract from that.

All craves are a type of desire, but not all desires are cravings.

Consider cravings as short term drivers while desires can be long term drivers.

For instance, desire to be healthy is a long term goal while craving for fried wings are short term.

Don’t let short term cravings distract/deter you from long term desires.

The more you can control/let go of cravings, the more you can focus on meaningful things.

It’s nice to enjoy food and it’s okay to enjoy it, but it must be balanced with an overall focus towards long term desires.

Consider a middle path between hedonism (all cravings) vs monastic (no pleasure)

Easier said than done. However, the more you can control your wants, the happier you will be.

Happiness = things you have/things you want

Also, the better you can understand your desires and the results/consequences of those desires, the better you can navigate your life and move towards a better life

It’s okay to feel frustrated, angry, or upset. And it’s okay to honor/acknowledge how you’re feeling.

But it’s wrong to act mean because of those emotions. Being angry doesn’t justify lashing out.

This is a tough thing to implement, especially in the moment, but thought it would at least be worth noting

Random thought: what if you consider health and wellness a hobby?

Sounds a bit odd, but I feel there can be an unhealthy focus on weight. Despite that, people struggle with their health

Perhaps it’s our perspective? It’s almost like a live or die/war zone in regards to health. We think I have to lose x amount of weight or I have to do this/that.

What if we viewed it like a hobby that we enjoy? Then it’s like “ooo! I can eat this instead of that!” Maybe it’s the type of energy we put into it. If we view it kind of like work, it may drag kind of like work and that’s not what we want for ourselves.

Instead, maybe view it as a cool thing you can build on

Considering viewing through the lens of curious objectivity

What makes people crazy/unhinged is when they try to control things outside of their control (ie how another person acts). Learn to assess what’s truly in your control and learn to let go of the rest

Hamper bin (bin for dirty clothes to be washed) should be either in the bathroom or closet, based on space and availability

Clever people can learn things to understand

If you’re clever, you can gain understanding from reading, watch, or listening to an experience.

You can learn from other people’s mistakes (and experiences). That way, you can gain wisdom without having to go through it yourself.

Utilizing this will take you leaps and bounds beyond others

People who have unhealthy relationships in the past may seek it out again because it’s what they’re used to. Don’t confuse familiarity with safety

People treat you how they want to treat you and it’s up to you to leave behind those who treat you terribly

Do not confused peace with boredom. Some people are used to earning affection through chaos or pain and that is not healthy

Saw this quote. I feel it rings true